I joked with several people this past week that I have recently been described as a “seasoned woman’ more than I care to count. I’m working toward embracing that description. My friend Kathy told me it meant I am ‘spicy’—she assured me that was a good thing. (I’m also working on trusting comments made by friends!)

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Here’s what I do trust: Ps 92:12-15 which says, “The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the LORD, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, “The LORD is upright; he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him.”

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What this scripture says to me is that age does not limit service to God. The scriptural principle found in Psalm 92 is that we are to celebrate the process of growing older, to increase in usefulness to His Kingdom and grow stronger because of deep spiritual roots. It’s interesting to note that age makes other things decay, but age makes a palm tree flourish and the best fruit comes from an older tree.

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The temptation for a seasoned woman is to say I’m done. I’ve gotta tell you, I can’t do that. I think that’s why I have such a hard time with the label. Last week a 90-year-old woman was in a workshop I led at a conference for women. She stood and testified of God’s grace still at work in her life and there was no doubt we were all blessed by her declaration.  I may be seasonsed, but hearing this woman share let me know there’s much more spice to add to the mix.

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Gratefully enjoying the spice life has brought…so far.

©Brenda Pace, 2010

Proud to be part of this amazing leadership team!

April is my birthday month and it always brings with it some reflection. I’m really working on embracing the titles and descriptions of “seasoned”, “older”, “Titus II“, and “mentor.” I have a dear young person in my life that told me when he was 3 years of age that I would never be old because I was too short! Short or not, the age scale is moving upward and I want to embrace these roles and live them to their truest fulfillment.
This spring and summer I have an opportunity to take a further step in that journey as I have the privilege to be part of a dynamic leadership training team. The team is a great mix of women from a variety of stages in life, denominational backgrounds and leadership experience. I’m considering my role on the team at my age and stage in life and have thought about what it means to serve in the capacity of a mentoring leader. As I “grow up” I want to be a leader who:
  • Is enthusiastic and interested–Enthusiasm cannot be taught, but it can be caught. A mentor who is enthusiastic about her relationship with God and her ministry calling will communicate that attitude through her words and actions. A mentor who exhorts will take the time to get to know what is going on in the lives of those she is influencing. Asking good open-ended questions is a great way to make this happen and it  cannot be undervalued.  A fundamental principle of teaching  modeled by Jesus is meeting people where they are in order to guide them where they need to be. Discovering areas where motivation is needed can come through the asking of good questions.
  • Depends on prayer–The mentor who depends on prayer will be strengthened both personally and relationally. One author wrote that mentoring is not an “assembly line process.” For the Christian, mentoring is spiritual labor and requires spiritual warfare. The enemy of our soul does not want to see more faithful followers of Jesus. A wise mentor will recognize that it is only the power of the Holy Spirit who can bring transformation in the life of another. No greater model for this can be found than Jesus laboring in prayer on behalf of his disciples and those who would come after in John 17. A life that is characterized and strengthened by prayer will overflow into the lives of those we mentor.
  • Is intentional about understanding a younger generation–Personally, I think  the church in general has created an environment that is not conducive to mentoring. Mentoring is something that happened naturally in cultures/society of past generations. Churches need to be more intentional to teach about the importance of mentoring. There needs to be a challenge put forth for older people to seek out those who are younger, and vice versa. I would love to see churches provide opportunities (SS classes, sermons, leadership requirements that younger/newer must be paired with older leader, etc.) for this type of relationship to develop. Too often churches are segregated according to age; as a result there are few opportunities to build cross-generational relationships. It is important to remember that mentoring is not a program, but rather it is a relationship. It’s not about match-making, but in the church it is about creating a culture that is conducive to the development of relationships that provide opportunities for biblical mentoring to take place.
  • Is willing to be vulnerable—In a mentoring relationship, there is danger to project the best of one’s self. Leadership trainees need to see authenticity. They need to see that there are struggles even in those they consider “mature.” The need to see how a mature Christian deals with those struggles—mistakes and all. C. S. Lewis said it this way: “Think of me as a fellow-patient in the same hospital who, having been admitted a little earlier, could give some advice.”
What’s your view of being (or having) a mentor leader?
©Brenda Pace, 2010


Today I welcome my web creator friend Rochelle as a guest blogger. The lovely photo was taken by her brother Bill Boling who serves as a missionary in Costa Rica. I know you will find both of these amazing views worth a look!

Twists and Turns
Anyone who knows me will tell you that I’m not very concerned about “fitting in” or even being considered “normal.”  In fact, I’d like to know what “normal” is.  Normally, we want life to be smooth…straight…not too many twist and turns.  But I like a little excitement now and then.  I look forward to the “off road” experiences.  The ones filled with bumps that launch me into the air and turns that make me hang on so tight my knuckles turn white.
Old as Mud?
Seems as though the journey that God has entrusted me with has been filled with plenty of those bumps and white knuckle turns and because I’m not normal, I find that I look forward to my off road times.  I must admit that many times the off road stuff causes me to get covered in dirt and mud but the older I get (my daughter would say I’m as old as that mud) the more I realize that the momentary discomfort is well worth the end result.   There is nothing like launching off those bumps right into the arms of God and hanging on so “white knuckle” tight that the fear and weariness give way to the exhilaration of who God is and the growth to be learned in that place.
Yep, I love life’s off road adventures because it is there that I find the most spectacular views of my God and many of my most rewarding encounters with life.


A Fellow Sojourner